Valentines day. It's just around the corner. This is a re-post of something I wrote last year. I came across, re-read it, and I thought that it was worth posting and/or sharing again. Know who you are and WHOSE you are and let that be where your greatest LOVE and greatest pleasure come from this February 14th.
This morning I had a Valentine's day revelation. Several weeks ago I said that this year, I refuse to host or go to any "Single ladies valentine's dinners or parties". I have participated in these events in the past, and my opinion is not meant to offend anyone who has plans to do this very thing come Monday,(or Tuesday since it is now 2012 and this is a re-post), but for some reason, the thought of these parties just really bothered me. I just realized why...
Being single does not define me. In fact, I embrace the single. I am not some femi-nazi, but there is no better time to live out your wildest dreams and goals. Doesn't that just make you want to hop on a plane and fly to Paris or Spain with out a plan or care in the world? Well, it is just you and You can! The purpose of Valentines day is for love, not to declare how single you are and use Beyonce lyrics to make you feel better about it. Beyonce is quite the diva, but sassy hip shakes and a catchy beat is not enough to make you feel empowered. That comes from within.
Who cares if you are single on valentines day? I can buy myself flowers because I know that I am beautiful and search out the perfect box of chocolates because I know that I rock. Someday, someone else (other than my dad), will do these things for me and I will embrace it and channel my innermost cupid to making that person feel like they are the most loved and appreciated person on the planet. However, in this season, it is just me!
In the past, I have not always been a fan of the holiday. I will admit I am compulsive when it comes to all things pink, glitter, and hearts- but my valentine's day track record hasn't always been so good. Try 3 break ups three years in a row - the day before Valentines day, the day of, and the day after! Talk about Cupid missing the mark - I was starting to think that he needed some target practice. Ha! humorous now, but I let someone steal my Valentine's day thunder! I let someone else define ME! No sir! Not this year!
What if you made February 14th a day/night all about how awesome YOU are and how much you stickin' LOVE yourself and the way God made you? Forget the single ladies, how about an "I am ridiculously awesome and Love myself party!" Celebrate yourself!!!!! This does mean that you become stuck up and narcissistic for 24 hours, but if you can't love you, then how do you expect someone else to love you? You manifest what you carry within.
I most certainly am not trying to bash all you single ladies and all the single lady parties - I have been invited to a couple of them myself by some of the most fantastic women on the planet :). I am simply saying, don't declare all things "single" on valentine's day to fill a void . It is ok that you may not be experiencing a "lady in the tramp, nice, romantic,spaghetti dinner" moment this Monday (Tuesday) night. Never be ashamed of the season you are in, whether it be single or taken, because God has you right where He wants you, in His hands! And let's face it, He is the valentine that will never disappoint.
So whether you decide to get together with all your single ladies or whether you get a table for one, instead of voicing how single you are or how you desperately long to "meet your man", try recognizing and celebrating how incredible, valuable, lovable, magnificent, fun, amazing, talented, blessed, thankful, smokin hott, and fabulous YOU are! Now that's a holiday! Pop that bottle of wine open and go around the room and make everyone say what they LOVE about themselves! Take the focus off of labeling whether you are single or taken!
I am pretty sure that this is the Valentine's day mindset that I am going to be living in this year! Being single or having a "special someone" does not define me - I define ME! and I LOVE me! Happy Valentines day!!
